“Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.”
“Rock bottom has built more heroes than privilege.”
“Hitting rock bottom is an opportunity to rebuild yourself.”
Okay, so any of you who follow me on Instagram will know that I love my quotes! To me a good quote that you can relate to and connect with, can totally change your attitude and outlook at least for that day.
Now when you look-up sobriety quotes or read recovery books or even just talk to people about sobriety, “Rock Bottom” is mentioned a lot!
- When did you know you had hit rock bottom?
- What was your rock bottom?
- How bad was it?
- What did you do, how bad was it?
And for some people yes, they may have hit an all time low, a rock bottom, done a horrendous thing to make them realise they have a problem with drinking and this is their wake up call. The only was is up!
I didn’t hit rock bottom. Speaking for myself, as a 42 year old mum my life isn’t wild enough for my drinking to take me to rock n roll, rock bottom adventures. Apart from the odd night out, or party where I would do something to embarrass myself (normally falling over or out of the taxi, or saying something with zero filter!) my drinking habits were just slowly but surely zapping the life out of me, and making me more boring than wild!
I was still a fully functioning person, a mum, wife, running my own business and just keeping everything running smoothly. On the outside I looked normal (well as normal as I can!) but inside I felt like I was getting old before my time, my confidence was low, my energy low, I had little to no patience and I just had no sense of adventure or love for life.
As I have said before, it took me months of trying to quit before I actually succeeded. It was a slow decision, my mind was constantly torn between moderating, quitting and drinking plans so I didn’t feel rough over the weekend. Once I did stop drinking I didn’t have to think about it anymore, that feeling is unbelievable and gives you so much more room to think about what you love. I just so wish I had done it sooner and that is seriously my only regret. I now feel so much stronger both physically and mentally and feeling like I am living life as my best self and not just a washed out version like I used to be. We all know the dreaded beer fear that you get after a boozy weekend, where anything and everything makes you anxious or depressed, well that’s now gone. I feel confident and fresh every morning, including Mondays, I even posted about how much I love them here!Magic Mondays Not Manic Mondays!
One thing that really is annoying is when people just assume that hitting rock bottom is why you stopped drinking! Or assume that you ‘cant drink’ If people just took the time to ask they would realise that I didnt hit rock bottom and I don’t drink because I don’t WANT to drink. That is my personal choice and the best choice I have ever made for my mental and physical health, myself and my family.
The Recovery Village did a fab article on this:-
“So how do we change before we hit rock bottom? It boils down to an individuals willingness to change and recognise the path their life is taking. Addiction thrives on a person living in denial of whats really going on. Rock bottom isn’t for everyone because the worst case scenario does not have to be when someone decides that changing their life is worth it. It should be a matter of getting honest with ourselves, and making the daily choice to change their life around.
If you are currently struggling, you can change your life around today. Not a few months from now or a few years down the road but RIGHT NOW. Rock bottom doesn’t have to be on the cards for you. Regain control of your life by putting an end to what is bringing you down.”
And that is exactly the message that I am trying to send, whatever it is that you are unhappy with, just make that change. Dont wait for things to get worse or hit rock bottom. Start today. Stop saying you will start Monday, next month or next year. Life is seriously too short to be at war with yourself. Make today the first day of your journey to becoming the best version of you and start living the life you love!
I hope your all having a happy, healthy, sunny Saturday!