Today is the 21st November 2018 and today I am celebrating TWO years of not drinking. Two years since my day one. Two years of NO hangovers. Two years of just being, me alcohol free!
Now I am someone who couldn’t even get through a Friday night never mind a weekend without drinking (unless I was pregnant or ill!) so yes I’m going to celebrate and post about it!!! For me its a pretty big thing!
As all of you lovely followers know, I started my Instagram page @lifitngweightsnotwine and Blog back in March this year and with the support of you guys it really has taken off, so thankyou so much! Who knew that there are people out there who want to listen to a sober, 43year old Lancashire lass rambling on about her sober journey! So thankyou for sticking with me, from the bottom of my heart I appreciate it more than you know!
Up until today my Blog and Instagram page have been sort of anonymous, as in I have only told a few close friends and family about them. However today to mark my two years soberversary, I have shared them on my personal Instagram and Facebook page. And I’m not going to lie, its made me feel really nervous and vulnerable. I feel like everything surrounding my decision to stop drinking is out there for all to read. And most worryingly its out there for people to judge!
That’s one of the reasons why I held back sharing Lifting Weights Not Wine, because I know my decision to stop drinking was a personal choice, just like people choose to drink. That is their choice and for a long time it was mine too and I was happy (or I thought I was) with that decision.
So here I am two years on from making the decision to quit and what have I learnt from two years of not drinking?
I have covered these points along the way in previous posts on my blog and go into much more detail on there (just click on the link to read them) but the main things that I have learnt on my sober journey are the following:-
- Stop waiting to make a change, start now, where you are and with what you have got! I stopped drinking on the 21st November 2016 when I had Christmas coming up, it was the perfect opportunity to say “I will wait until the New Year!”. But instead I thought if I can do it now, when there are so many social events and boozy opportunities ahead, then I can do it no matter what. So just start NOW, TODAY and STOP WAITING! (lets share the same sober date!!) read more at Just start……….
- Please do not worry about losing friends! True friends will support you and stick by your side no matter what. My best friends (some who have been my serious drinking partners in the past!) are still my best friends now. They have supported me 100% and I am so grateful for that. Yes I have lost a few friends, mainly going out friends but I view that as their problem not mine! read more on this at Will I lose friends?
- You can still socialise sober! I go out more now than I have ever done. WHY? …
I’ve realised I’m still a bit crazy, chatty and sociable without the booze.
Nights out now mean I can have a good laugh, remember it all and not write off my whole weekend because I have a hangover!
Plus I can drive, so meet up in different places and go to different things, plus I can taxi everyone along with me! read more at Sober Nights Out!!
- Stopping drinking has given me a confidence in myself that I have never had, well not for a long time! – This is because I no longer have the anxiety that hangovers and drinking left me with. I now have a new lust for life and constantly looking to try new things and challenge myself.
- I have discovered a passion for health and fitness, especially lifting weights. The main thing I have found is that consistency is key – that’s what makes the change both physically and mentally. I used to exercise for a few days then a hangover from hell and carb coma would send me off track for the next few days and undo all my good efforts. Now I am ON IT and FOCUSED every single day and it feels AMAZING, I feel stronger and fitter than I have ever been.
- I have discovered a tribe of sober supporters out there. My Instagram and online family and followers have been amazing, sometimes just knowing that you are not the only person out there feeling this way, is all you need to make the change and take that first step.
- You are never too old to change! I am 43 and recently signed up to train as a Bodypump Instructor next year, it scares me to death but not doing it scares me even more! It makes me want to train harder too, because if I’m going to be the oldest one on the course I want to be up there with the fittest! I am also planning on taking a Life Coach course next year too.
- Most importantly I know that I am giving my two girls the best mum that I can be. They have been my inspiration from day one, and my cheerleaders. They now have a mum who is full of energy, full of life, who the majority of the time is calmer and more patient (not all the time, I mean I’ve only stopped drinking and not become a Saint!) I am 100% present when I am with them, they have got ALL of the sober me. And that for me is my everything! My Girls – My Wake Up Call!
There are a million and one things I have discovered in the past two years and the above are just the tip of the iceberg. But they are the biggies for me!
The reason I have shared Lifting Weights Not Wine is because I feel proud of it! I am not desperate for people to follow me, and I certainly don’t want people following me just for a nosey or to get a dig in where they can. If it’s not your thing, it’s not your thing and your probably better off following someone else!
My Blog and Instagram page are for people who feel the same as me about alcohol and who are looking to make a change or have already done so! It’s about grasping life with both hands and changing what you are unhappy about with regards to your drinking habits, health and fitness. The ultimate message is about living your life as the best version of you!
I have had so many messages and emails from people who are looking to change their drinking habits and lifestyle. And I also have a few friends who are on their own sober journey too, wether I have inspired them to do so I don’t know? All I do know is that there is another world out there full of people wanting to change their self destructive drinking pattern and start living a life they love. If sharing my story is helping and inspiring people then that’s all I can hope for!
Thankyou so much for all of your likes, comments and follows on Lifting Weights Not Wine – it really does mean so much!
Next week I will be posting about Surviving A Sober Christmas, and it will probably run over a few weeks because I have a lot of tips and survival strategies so watch this space!!
Happy Wednesday Sober Warriors!